Author: Byron Darden

Can You Relate?

In a workshop recently, a participant bravely spoke up and shared her story. Over the years in her job, she has experienced difficulties adapting to the culture of her workplace. Not wanting to “rock the boat,” she kept quiet. She needed her job and enjoyed the work for the most part. That said, she wasn’t thriving.

As a result, she started to show up ready for a fight. By her own omission, she would show up at work with walls built up, ready to defend herself against any perceived oppression. She was afraid to speak up and tell her truth, and her emotions couldn’t be contained.

Keep in mind that one of the leading causes of illness is stress! Bottling up those feelings takes its toll on your physical body, emotions, and spirit; it can also severely affect your health. It took some soul-searching and courage to speak up finally. 

The advice I would give this participant is to open themselves up to the possibilities of change within themselves. Show up with authenticity and pay attention to what has heart and meaning. Do the work and tell their truth without blame and judgment. Be open to the outcome without the attachment we tend to have out of the desire to avoid change. When confronted with a situation, remind yourself that it is not a competition with others; it is a chance for us to show the world our best self. Once we get out of our own way, there is a silver lining in virtually every situation in which we find ourselves once we stop and observe.

Take the First Step

Finding yourself in an oppressive situation is uncomfortable. You can take steps to reclaim your power and speak your truth. Here are a couple of tools:

RACE Tool

  • Respond to others as you would in your own reality. Respect their beliefs and accept them as they are.
  • Ask how you can be of service. Give the situation and the other person your full attention and be present.
  • Care about what you say and how you say it. Think about how your words impact others.
  • Empathize with others by acknowledging their words authentically. Make it your mission to inspire positive action in others.

Tips for Leaders

Finding your truth means recognizing and speaking up when your gut tells you things are unfair. Oppression is fought one small action at a time. Do not shrink because it makes others feel comfortable.

Speak up when someone attacks your dignity; bring awareness to the situation that their actions are not acceptable. Remaining quiet when a person limits your access to fair treatment or equal opportunity sends the message that you are okay with their behavior. When you experience a sexist remark, an antisemitic indiscretion, or a sexual advance, file a formal complaint. If a person routinely interrupts during a meeting, address the behavior immediately.

When employing either of these tools, take a moment to ensure that you see the complete picture and use the opportunity to create education and understanding.

Speak Your Truth

It takes courage to stand up and speak your truth when faced with oppression. A study by the Harvard Business Review states that only 1.4% of employees blow the whistle on wrongdoings. Read more.

There is a chance of repercussions, harassment, loss of your job, and worse.

When facing oppression, build your network and find your allies. Use your network to expand your horizons, as well as find groups to work together to enact change.

As a leader, you have opportunities for change:

  • Retool the way your organization handles complaints. Reporting tools need to protect the victim and allow group reporting.
  • Make employees feel comfortable by building a culture of safety that focuses on tolerance, tone, and a lack of judgment.
  • Let employees know that behaviors will not be tolerated and action will be fair and just.
  • Follow up with actions to support your claim.

Above all, stand up to a situation that makes you question your self-worth. Take steps to rectify a destructive situation or explore alternative options. Use your network for support or new opportunities.

Begin Now

Systemic racism and oppression are not easy issues to tackle. They are often hot issues that cause strong reactions. These are issues that have been around for a long time, and it will take time and perseverance to change the narrative.

While it feels good to lash out at others when we feel oppressed, first take a look at your actions and reactions and see where you can move the needle in a positive direction. The power is within you.

“To bring about change, you must not be afraid to take the first step. We will fail when we fail to try.”
– Rosa Parks

I personally invite you to join my network of strong women focused on goals of equity and inclusion. We work to end oppression in the workplace and give you the tools needed to use your voice. Head on over to www.byrondarden.com and find out your leadership style. Click the button below to schedule a time with me to discuss how I might best support you. We can discuss your unique situation and empower you to use your voice literally and figuratively.

Founder’s Corner

Anniversaries, birthdays, and new beginnings are favorite moments of mine. My zeal for them has prompted me to depart slightly from our corporate culture series to acknowledge a few.

A year ago I began delving into what is now the anniversary of the ISO 30415:2021 Standard for Diversity and Inclusion released last year. This new global development also marks my own involvement in learning how I can apply this global standard to the companies and people with whom I work.

This month marks a new beginning as we roll out the EQUITY FORM MASTERCLASS. In the coming months, you will learn more about this program that answers the question, how do we tackle systemic racism in organizational structure? For the past four months, I have focused my attention on developing the concept and attending to the most interested audience with whom to launch it.

Lastly, I end the month of April celebrating the dual 95th birthdays of two of the most significant women in my life. One of my six living aunts and one of my family’s dearest friends. Woohoo! These two women hold an important place in my life both personally and professionally.

Their influence is instrumental in how I think, what I talk about and what is important for me to do in serving women in leadership. These women represent the corporate and educational worlds in which I spend much of my professional time. So this month, intersectionality seemed a necessary focus as it applies to better acknowledging and grounding the difference among us all and why those differences matter.

Wishing you a happy May!

Understanding Intersectionality

A person’s background and experience define how they interact with society. Many tend to gravitate toward those with the same core values. Many are influenced by those who surround them. When convictions are weak, outside sources infiltrate thinking. Often, this is an opportunity for growth and understanding. Other times, it can create tension depending on the intentions of the person or group spreading information. It can be increasingly challenging to know and follow the truth. It is up to each of us to promote understanding and empathy to many points of view.

Origins of Intersectionality

In 1989, Kimberle Williams Crenshaw, a professor at Columbia and UCLA and a leading scholar of Critical Race Theory, coined the term Intersectionality to acknowledge an individual’s unique experiences with discrimination and oppression. Intersectionality can apply to a multitude of factors. The apparent forms are gender, sexuality, race, and class. We should also include weight, physical appearance, disabilities (visible and invisible), and religion. What used to be differences based on one factor has evolved into differences based on many.

We often look at someone and define them by our preconceptions. When a person attends a high-end university, we might assume that they are privileged. We jump to conclusions regardless of the truth. Many of us are quick to judge, and Intersectionality reminds us that we should take a step back. Everything we say or do has an effect. We must take care the best we can to avoid marginalizing people, whether it is intentional or not.

Understanding Intersectionality and How We Act

On the surface, Diversity and Inclusion seem simple. Treat everyone equally regardless of cultural, racial, sexual, or mobility differences. Because you haven’t walked in their shoes, you may not know what would make them feel marginalized.

I encountered a blind couple at a function recently. As I observe them, my curiosity starts to grow. I want to help them yet feel unsure whether I should. Thoughts start running through my head – Do they need help? Will that make them feel called out? Will it make them feel that they do not belong, that they are a burden, that I have no faith in their ability?

I turn to them and say, “hello.” Soon, someone places a plate of food in front of them, and one of them asks me, “what is on this plate?” As she touches and points to grapes, vegetables, and crackers on her plate, I offer a simple explanation. She thanks me, and soon we are engrossed in conversation about the true nature of the event and the challenges of her condition.

As we part ways, the couple makes their way out of the room and to the elevator. I admire their independence and come away with a deep respect for their journey. A little kindness, empathy, and curiosity go a long way.

At an individual level, you have great opportunities. Setting policies and procedures at a corporate level can get a bit trickier. Smaller companies can address individual issues. Larger companies often hire a manager, conduct training, and set policies to educate the entire workforce on the subject of diversity and inclusion. Consider this discussion among managers in the DEI space: Racism is Bad for Business.

Individual and Corporate Intersectionality

Let’s start with Intersectionality at an individual level. Let’s say that employees at Company X take a required diversity training and understand on the surface that specific ways of speaking can be interpreted in different ways. Employees A and B are working together, and they are from entirely different backgrounds. To accomplish the task at hand, both employees need to be conscious of the information gained in their training and use that to communicate and work together.

At a corporate level, diversity and inclusion beliefs and practices can affect employee productivity and how the company is perceived by its customers. Lately, there have been several situations where a company has taken a stand on an issue, and it has polarized the population.

Here are some examples. Many companies have ceased doing business with Russia due to the conflict with Ukraine. This can alienate those of Russian descent, whether they agree with Russia’s actions. Many companies require their customers to get a vaccine. This can alienate those who have religious exemptions or have a medical condition that prevents them from complying.

Let’s get a little more specific. When a company recognizes Black Lives Matter, some workers and customers feel heard, and some are alienated. It can often seem a very fine line. Some agree and continue doing business with the company. Some disagree and search for other alternatives. We see the consequences of corporate action in the news.

A few years back, I worked within the financial services industry-leading a Diversity & Inclusion workshop. The client questioned the level of diversity one of their vendors had and asked me my opinion. I felt it was the responsibility of my client to address this with the vendor. I went on to explain that in the event the lack of diverse leadership and team demonstrates an insensitivity in the workplace for inclusion, this could turn out to be a liability for my client. My point of view was that my client owes it to their organization and their channel partners to take action and say something.

Let’s dial it in a little and focus on internal policies within a company. When companies do not address issues of discrimination head-on, it results in a toxic culture. This can lead to workers, loss of productivity, absenteeism, health issues, and lawsuits. At the very least, companies should follow the law. Their practices should nurture employees, build relationships, and create a sense of caring.

Standards of Intersectionality

In addition to making good business sense, how a company handles Diversity, Equity, Inclusion & Belonging is now guided by ISO (International Standards Organization). ISO formulated a set of standards with which a company can identify where they stand regarding how well they have addressed issues of Diversity and Inclusion. The alignment with these standards gives an indication of the inclusive fitness of organizations.

Companies can participate in a risk assessment centered on these standards. Based on a company’s answers, an Inclusion Score is provided. This score affects insurance rates and gives companies action items to address critical issues. The principles that affect your score include 4 Risk Groups, 10 Risk Categories, 32 Risk Domains, and 170 Risk Elements covering leadership, human resource practices, inclusive culture, supply chain management, sustainability, policies, etc. By getting an Inclusion Score, a company can reinforce its commitment to diversity and inclusion. Read more about the ISO Standards for Diversity and Inclusion.

An unfortunate side-effect of not focusing attention on D&I is billions of dollars in lawsuits that can cripple an otherwise prosperous business. It’s prudent to protect your assets while developing D&I processes. Inclusion Scores can begin to address marginalization, giving each person a voice while addressing the organization’s needs.