Are high moral character, superior quality, or elevated social rank descriptors we tend to associate with leaders? It’s a question I’ve asked myself. Now, I’m asking you!

For a moment consider a leader who does not possess some variation of these qualities. Would you want to be led by such an individual?

Now imagine the topic is about Your qualities as a leader. How is your clarity, resilience, and presence in demanding environments? How do you regulate your nervous system? Are you able to compose yourself under pressure? 

For a moment, let’s set those questions aside and ask yourself, how much more or less do you invest in developing strategy, leadership frameworks, and operational systems?

Hi, I’m Byron Darden bringing you another edition of Leading with Purpose on Purpose. In this installment I want to challenge you to think about the impact of reduced investment in Learning and Development—particularly cuts related to Executive Leadership Presence—and what that means for overall value creation.  As you read, consider how these decisions influence leadership effectiveness and organizational performance. Then share your thoughts in the comments and let us know how your perspective evolves. Enjoy!

Read more about how breathing helped a leader in A Story That Illustrates the Need

Like many leadership practices, intentional breathing is both powerful and deceptively simple. Its effectiveness often surprises leaders precisely because it does not appear sophisticated. In fact, for over twenty years I’ve facilitated a short session on breathing that turns out to be the single greatest takeaway on which leaders comment most.

Understanding both its strengths and its limits helps place it in the proper context.

What Makes It So Effective

The greatest advantage of intentional breathing is its immediacy.

Unlike many leadership development tools that require training programs, frameworks, or extended reflection, breathing works in real time. A leader can shift their physiological state in less than a minute.

That shift often produces meaningful leadership benefits:

• Rapid stress reduction during high-pressure situations
• Improved emotional regulation when conversations become difficult
• Greater clarity in decision-making
• Stronger listening and presence in meeting
• Increased capacity for reflection rather than reaction

Equally important, the practice requires no special environment, equipment, or preparation. It can be used before a board presentation, during a negotiation, between meetings, or even in the middle of a challenging conversation.

For leaders operating in fast-moving environments, accessibility matters.

Where Leaders Sometimes Misunderstand It

At the same time, intentional breathing is often misunderstood in two ways.

First, some leaders dismiss it as overly simplistic. Because breathing is something we do automatically, it can be easy to assume that consciously regulating it cannot have a meaningful impact.

Ironically, that assumption is often made by the same leaders who immediately notice the difference when they begin practicing it consistently.

Second, one profits from not viewing breath work as a replacement for deeper developmental work. It does not resolve chronic burnout, long-standing stress patterns, or trauma. Those challenges often require more comprehensive support.

What intentional breathing does provide is a reliable entry point into self-regulation. It creates a moment of pause that allows leaders to access the clarity and judgment they already possess.

The Real Value for Leaders

Perhaps the greatest value of intentional breathing is that it strengthens a capability many leadership models assume, yet rarely teach: the ability to regulate oneself in the moment.

Strategy, communication frameworks, and decision-making models all matter. Their effectiveness depends heavily on a leader’s capacity for presence in applying them.

Intentional breathing helps cultivate it.

Practiced consistently, it quietly strengthens one of the most valuable leadership qualities of all: composure under pressure.

Finally, learn about Reinforcing the Practice

To breathe or not to breathe, that is a real question posed differently by Shakespeare. The opening lines to Hamlet’s Soliloquy include acknowledgment of what is nobler, which is characterized as someone or something having high moral character, superior quality, or elevated social rank. Are those not qualities we tend to associate with leaders? I encourage you to sit with that question while you consider the automaticity of breathing that can sometimes fool us into thinking we have no say, no control, nor accountability for our breathing. Yet we do!

Life is full of choices. So much so that we profit from choosing wisely. So then, why do we find ourselves presenting to an audience practically holding our breath? It won’t help us get through the presentation any easier. For that matter, we might not even get to the end before the medics are called to revive us. 

While I may be exaggerating by suggesting a life-or-death decision requiring medics, it is no longer surprising to me how often leaders tell me that they frequently find themselves holding their breath. Then they are left wondering why their anxiety level rises to meet the high stakes of a particular situation.

Hi, I’m Byron Darden with another edition of Leading with Purpose on Purpose. In this installment, we explore the benefits of deliberately breathing. I was fortunate enough to have learned this lesson back in the 2nd grade when I set my sights on becoming an actor. Not long after I took the stage, I learned how important it was to become a singer and dancer. Eventually, I found my way into figure skating and coaching. 

Had it not been for adopting activities that require a deliberate focus on breathing, I’d think this blog topic was published as a filler while I’m off on vacation. 

Breathing might seem like the last thing that needs your attention—we all do it automatically. After 30+ years of coaching, I’ve seen just how incorrect that assumption can be. The reality is that so much is tied to our breathing that we owe ourselves to stop, take a breath, and read on. Enjoy!

Discover The Leadership Skill Hiding in Plain Sight: Intentional Breathing

Intentional breathing is the practice of consciously regulating the rhythm, depth, and pace of your breath in order to influence your physiological and mental state.

This idea is not new to me.

As a competitive figure skater, Olympic coach (yes, coaches need it too), stage actor, and both chorus skater and principal performer in Ice Capades, learning how to regulate my breathing was essential to performing under pressure. This was particularly true as a chorus skater when you’re part of a team or leading teams. 

Whether preparing for competition, stepping onto a stage, or coaching athletes through moments that demanded focus and composure, breath control became one of the most reliable tools I had.

Unlike automatic breathing—which happens unconsciously—intentional breathing introduces awareness and choice.

By deliberately slowing or regulating your breath, you send a signal to your nervous system that it is safe to settle. The internal noise quiets. Tension decreases. Focus returns.

I sometimes describe this shift to clients as the moment when your inner wisdom gently reminds you that your inner critic is no longer in charge.

For leaders, this matters because how you regulate yourself directly influences how you lead others.

This is particularly true for management consultants guiding teams through high-stakes client engagements, attorneys negotiating complex matters or litigating in courtrooms, and educators or administrators navigating the ongoing pressures within today’s school systems—especially given the lingering stress from the pandemic and persistent budget constraints.

When your nervous system is calm, your capacity to listen improves. Your ability to interpret complex information expands. Most importantly, you create the space to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.

Those familiar with my work know I often draw a distinction between reactive leadership and responsive leadership. The difference between the two often begins with something as simple as a breath.

Find out Why Intentional Breathing Is Important for Leaders

The vagus nervous system, shown at either end above, appears as branches of a tree throughout the body and is connected to the amygdala as shown in the center image.

What was once considered a simple relaxation technique is now supported by a growing body of neuroscience.

Controlled breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, one of the most important communication pathways between the brain and the body. Activation of this nerve helps regulate heart rate, digestion, and emotional responses.

Research from Stanford University’s neuroscience laboratories has shown that breathing patterns are closely linked to activity in brain regions responsible for alertness and emotional regulation.

When breathing slows and deepens, activity in the amygdala—the brain’s threat detection center—begins to decrease. At the same time, the prefrontal cortex, which governs reasoning, planning, and decision-making, becomes more engaged.

In other words, the way you breathe directly influences the part of your brain responsible for leadership-level thinking.

This is one of the reasons I developed a meditation practice early in life while training as a competitive skater. Performing under pressure required a level of grounded focus that could not be left to chance.

Breathing became the anchor that allowed that focus to emerge consistently.