When I reflect on the impact global travel has had on my life and work, I’m reminded of the narrow perspective I once had on many topics and issues. My experiences traveling the world have greatly expanded my view, inspiring me to share these insights so that others can avoid some of the stumbling blocks I’ve encountered. I  help people navigate their relationships at work and home more smoothly, with fewer stumbles, and coach them on how to gain valuable insights early in life that lead to more opportunities for growth and positive experiences going forward.

I grew up in a deeply religious family; my mother held leadership roles in the United Methodist Church, while my father served as a Deacon in a Southern Baptist Church. My sister attended an all-girls Catholic high school, and I went to an Episcopalian grammar school from 3rd to 5th grade. Most of my friends were either Catholic or Jewish, so I was exposed to a variety of beliefs, practices, and ways of thinking. The four pillars of my upbringing were Good, Bad, Right, and Wrong. 

Everything changed when I began to travel the world.

As I explored different cultures, I encountered people who considered what I believed to be “bad” to be “good.” What I thought of as “right,” others considered “wrong.” Despite our differing perspectives, I saw that people were living their lives with relative ease, even though we had radically different views of truth. That was when I realized that these concepts—Good, Bad, Right, and Wrong—are judgments. And what happens when we feel judged by others, especially in the workplace?

Asking the thousands of leaders I’ve spoken with over the past twenty years would likely lead to responses such as tension, anger, shutdown, annoyance, apprehensiveness, and a range of other emotions that trigger physical and mental constriction. Essentially we are addressing trauma in the body. These feelings stifle communication, block conversations, and erect walls between people where relationships once stood strong. Trust is lost, and we stop opening up to each other.

Lesson Learned:  When we can stay open to others’ thoughts and feelings, instead of judging them based on our own beliefs and presumed standards, we open ourselves up to learning something new—about ourselves as well as about others. In some cases, we even discover entirely new ways of thinking that are more effective for everyone involved. We may learn to think for ourselves, moving beyond the indoctrination we’ve been exposed to since birth. This is a growth opportunity that can expand your leadership capacity.

The truth is, there is nothing aimless about the indoctrination of a nation.

When we practice curiosity and refrain from judgment, especially with the people around us and those we lead, we build stronger relationships. We inspire others to trust us, uncover motivations in others that we can tap into to help us achieve what we cannot accomplish alone, and develop a collaborative mindset that fosters success with teams and clients.

There’s a funny line from the Broadway musical Cabaret where the master of ceremonies says, “You don’t believe me? Ask Helga!” While the line has a bawdy context, the sentiment here is simple: test my theory for yourself, and see what you gain from the outcome.

Time for Practical Approaches to Grounding through Embodied Practices.